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• Have faith in your child, so she can have faith in herself. (Chapter 1)

• Look for the positives and focus on what is good about your child. If we’re not careful, we can overlook the good things our children do and focus on the negatives. (Chapter 1)

• Ask yourself each evening, "If my child’s self-beliefs were based only on my words and actions today, what would he believe about himself as a human being?" (Chapter 1)

• Our kids’ needs to believe we love them whether they succeed or fail. Every effort your child makes increases the possibilities that he will succeed. Reinforce his efforts. (Chapter 1)

• Stresses and handicaps are facts of life. Although we cannot eliminate childhood pressures, we can minimize their impact by nurturing our children’s talents and strengths. (Chapter 2)

• Accept what makes your child unique and special. Recognize that your child’s strengths may lie in areas that don’t reflect your own personal preferences. (Chapter 2)

• Give your child the gift that withstands time: his knowing what makes him special. Help him discover his positive qualities by pointing them out when he demonstrates them. (Chapter 2)

• One of the greatest ways to encourage our children to speak up as well as to nurture their self-esteem is to show them we want to hear their ideas. (Chapter 3)

• You are your child’s best instructor in learning how to communicate effectively. (Chapter 3)

• Avoid rescuing your child by solving his problems for him. Reassure him you are nearby, but challenge him to solve problems himself. (Chapter 4)

• Whenever you have a problem, talk through the steps you are taking to remedy a dilemma. Kids learn best through example. (Chapter 4)

• Empower kids with come back lines to effectively handle bullying and meanness. It will lessen their chances of becoming victims of peer cruelty. (Chapter 5)

• Tune up your social graces and make courtesy a priority in your home. Polite kids are well like and have an edge on success. (Chapter 5)

• To enhance children’s social competence, teach one skill at a time. Tell him why it’s important, show what it looks like, give opportunities to practice using it, and then review his performance. (Chapter 5)

• Teach your child to encourage others. Kids like to be around kids who build them up. (Chapter 5)

• Teach kids to "use their words" to express themselves, instead of using their fists. (Chapter 6)

• Give kids a repertoire of skills to solve any problem-big or little-that may come their way. (Chapter 7)

• Helps kids recognize "there’s no problem that can’t be solved." The solutions are there--they just need to storm all the possibilities and choose the one that is the best choice. (Chapter 7)

• Show your pride not only for an accomplished goal but also for the effort it took to achieve it. (Chapter 7)

• Teach your child how to choose what they want to achieve and plan how they will achieve it. Begin with the easiest goal to tackle so they experience more immediate success. (Chapter 7)

• Too many goals can scatter your child’s efforts and can lead to disappointment. Choose one or two. (Chapter 7)

• Explain mistakes don’t mean failure; but instead can be learning opportunities in disguise. (Chapter 7)

• Tell children-especially kids who are struggling-stories about famous people who succeeded against the odds. Their stories offer hope. (Chapter 7)

• Remind kids it takes courage to try something you don’t feel confident doing. Stand by to support their triumphs-as well as their losses-they are all part of growing up. (Chapter 7)

• When your child experiences frustrations, resist the urge to step in and do the task for her. Too much rescue will not help your child learn to bounce back from setbacks. (Chapter 7)

• To teach children caring, you must show children caring. (Chapter 8)

• If you want your child to care-expect your child to care. The easiest way be increasing caring is by reinforcing caring behaviors. (Chapter 8)

• Encourage your child to lend a hand to make the world a better place. Children don’t learn how to be caring from reading about it in a textbook but from doing caring deeds. (Chapter 8)